I am angry that we are building a culture perceiving cesarean birth as a low-risk procedure that is safe for babies and not a big deal for mothers. I am angry that women perceive vaginal birth as something to be avoided at all costs, and I am angry at the obstetric community for doing so little to allow women the opportunity to birth in a way that is neither physically nor emotionally traumatic. I am angry because women are making birth decisions based on fear, and I'm angry because the mainstream media buys into and feeds that fear. "Don't worry, honey, you don't have to go through anything terrible to have your baby- watch this video, see how easy the c-section is? The baby is out and safe and they chose the right way to deliver. Next week: brain surgery!" What else can we trivialize?
The reality is that elective cesareans have risks, for moms and for babies. Surgical delivery is not a peaceful, gentle birth any more than vaginal delivery is a hellish squeeze through the maternal pelvis. There are grains of truth in the stereotypes, but there is also a reason birth has evolved as it has. Labor is good for babies, the squeeze through the pelvis designed to clear the lungs of amniotic fluid. There is a reason for birth, and more of us need to speak up about it. Cesarean birth is not the same, it is not safer, it is not risk-free and it is not "no big deal."
I can hear the criticism already- this post is unsupportive, I am judging mothers who have to have cesareans, I'm ignoring the fact that cesareans have saved countless women and babies. First, I'm not talking about medically necessary cesareans because clearly there are times that the risk of cesarean delivery is far less than the alternative. My purpose is also not to judge women who have made informed decisions to have elective cesareans. We absolutely need to support women in making informed choices, and that includes women who choose repeat cesareans or even primary elective cesareans. That does not mean I think we should stand silently by while a woman has a primary c-section at 38 weeks for a suspected big baby after being told horror stories about shoulder dystocia by her OB. That does not mean we have to listen quietly while someone says her c-section is better for her baby because her baby won't have to squeeze through the birth canal. That does not mean we should remain silent about the fact that pelvic floor damage is caused more often by pregnancy itself than vaginal delivery- and when it is caused by vaginal delivery it is often associated with highly interventive births, directed pushing, episiotomy. Supporting a woman in making decisions about her birth should be more than simply smiling and nodding and ignoring the stench of the bullshit that is thrown around like fact when it comes to birth.
I think it is entirely possible for women to be fully informed and educated and smart, and still value a different birth experience than I do. I can use myself as a prime example- I 100% believe that natural childbirth (the unmedicated, low-to-no-intervention kind, not just vaginal birth) is the absolute safest way to bring babies into the world. I 100% believe that for low-risk women, intervention is largely unnecessary and often adds needless risk to birth. However, I still chose epidurals with my last 2 VBACs, I still scheduled a medical induction for #3 (didn't make it that far, but I fully intended to induce if I had). After evaluating my options and researching my decisions, the benefits of those procedures outweighed the risks. Anyone else might have done the same research and made a different decision- and I would have fully supported them.
What I do not support, and what I judge, is a woman who deliberately chooses to make an uninformed decision and expects me to sing the praises of her choice. "All that matters is a healthy baby" has become the mantra, yet women are conditioned to believe intervention always equates to better outcomes, and our nation's morbidity and mortality statistics simply do not back that up. We need a big wakeup call, not just "support" that amounts to encouraging ever more uninformed decisions and greater social acceptance of high-intervention deliveries and elective cesareans as the norm. We need the media to stop glorifying elective cesarean and portraying vaginal birth as torturous hell. We need to find a way to have normal birth get the glory that's reserved for surgical delivery today. We need the mainstream media to tell women their options are not limited to either the overmedicalized horror show that passes for birth in many hospitals, or an elective cesearan.
If we don't start demanding change, the trend toward primary elective cesarean will continue. If we don't let media outlets know how unhappy we are with the way they misrepresent the realities of birth, they will continue to support and encourage us to view cesarean birth as the easy, no-muss-no-fuss way to deliver our babies. We deserve better.